Functional Language: Dating

Dating and related expressions

Dating idioms which may be useful for you now or ever:

 Phrasal Verbs

• ASK sb OUT: To ask someone if they’d like to go on a date with you. 
• CHAT sb UP: To talk to someone in a way that shows you’re attracted to them. 
• CHEAT ON sb: To have sex with a person who’s not your boyfriend or girlfriend; wife or husband. 
• GO OUT WITH sb: If you go out with someone (the infinitive use of the verb) it means you are literally going somewhere with the person you’re attracted to (going out on a date most commonly). If you’re going out with someone (the gerund form of the verb) it means that you’ve been meeting with that person on repeated occasions, you’re getting to know each other. 
• HIT ON sb: To act in a way that shows you’re attracted to the other person. It’s similar to chatting someone up, but hitting on someone might include other forms of flirting like getting a bit more physical than normal (jokingly punching her/him, touching hands, a lot of hugging, etc.), or giving the other person sexy, provocative looks. 
• HOOK UP with sb: To have sex with someone. However, for some people it might mean anywhere from making out to sex. 
• LEAD sb ON: To cause someone to think that you are interested in them when you are not (either because you want the attention or to get something) 
• MAKE OUT with sb: To heavily kiss. Can also include touching and petting. 
• MAN UP: Not really specifically a dating phrasal verb, but it’s what a guy would tell his friend when he doesn’t have enough courage to ask a girl out or make a move. 
• PICK UP sb: To have a make out session or have sex with a girl you just met, generally at a pub, bar or night club. 
• STAND sb UP: (most commonly used as to GET STOOD UP) if you stand someone up, you don’t show up to a date. 
• TURN sb DOWN: to say no to a date invitation, or to reject any kind of romantic intention from someone

  Verbs

• To date sb: to be going out with a person. 
• Drool over sb: to look or stare at someone with obvious desire. 
• Flirt: To show through actions, words or attitudes that you like someone. 
• Ogle: To look or stare at someone in a way that shows you’re sexually interested in that person. 
• Reject: To say no to a romantic invitation. To turn someone down. 
• Tease: to playfully and jokingly make fun of and provoke someone because you’re attracted to that person. ‘A tease’ is also a woman who leads men on. 
• To be seeing sb: to be going out with a person in whom you’re interested in getting to know better to find out if he or she is a good match for you. Similar to to be going out with someone or to date someone. 
• Wink at sb: Wink at sb: To close one eye while looking at a person (girls usually do this) to insinuate sexual attraction or because they want to look sexy. It’s not specifically a dating term, but it’s usually associated with seduction.

Verb Phrases

• Build up courage: this is not just related to dating, but it’s what you need to do if you want to ask someone out. You need to gather courage if you feel nervous or awkward about talking to a girl you like. >> I’m going to take her to dance, but I just need a few moments to build up some courage. 
• Get laid: This is one of the most common colloquial ways to say ‘to have sex’ or ‘to sleep with someone’. You can say this expression among friends but you need to be more careful when you’re talking with people you don’t know very well. To have sex with and to sleep with someone are far more appropiate alternatives when you’re not sure you should use this expression. 
• Have a crush on sb: To be attracted to a woman or a man over a period of time. This expression is pretty common and can be used in almost every context and by different age groups since it’s also innocent and playful. 
• Have good game: (also got game) To have a good technique and way of seducing and chatting up girls. 
• Have an affair: The same as to cheat on someone, but less informal. 
• Have chemistry with sb: To have very good energy. You vibe with them either personally or sexually. (Also, to have a spark). 
• To be heads over heel for sb: A different way of saying you have fallen in love with someone. >> When I was a kid I was head over heels with my neighbor. 
• Make advances at sb: (also to advance on someone) To say or do things that will get you closer to kissing or sleeping with someone (usually a man to a woman) 
• Make eyes at sb: To stare at someone because you like him or her. (to drool over) 
• Play hard to get: If a girl plays hard to get, they resist getting seduced easily to make the man more interested. 
• Pull moves on: Similar to make advances on someone. If you pull moves on a girl, you attempt to get further in the dating process by saying or doing the things that would seduce her.

People

• Baby: A term used to address your significant other. Baby girl is also common. However, sometimes we say baby after an exclamation, and we’re not necessarily addressing anyone, for example: “It’s party time, baby!” 
• Chick: Men use this term to talk about women in the third person. Addressing a woman as ‘chick’ would be considered disrespectful. This word can be derogative, and men generally use it to express sexual attraction. However, with the right tone of voice it can have much less negative connotation. 
• Cutie: A nice, innocent way to refer to a good-looking girl. 
• Creep (or creeper): A guy who likes a girl and tries way too hard to catch the girl’s attention, making the girl feel uncomfortable and totally uninterested in him. 
• Friend with benefit: A guy or girl who you’re not dating, but with whom you have a sexual relationship. 
• Fuck buddy: A more vulgar way of saying ‘friends with benefits.’ 
• Jailbait: An extremely sexy-looking girl that you can’t legally have sex with because she’s younger than 18 (the legal age one can be in a relationship with someone over 18). If you do have sex with a jailbait girl, you might end up in jail. Just like the term suggests, she is a bait (object or piece of food used to attract prey) to jail. 
• Player: A man who is skilled in seduction, and sleeps with many women, especially through manipulation. 
• Significant other: Your boyfriend or girlfriend. People refer to their couple as t ‘significant other’ when they don’t want to disclose their marital status or sexual orientation. (also, partner) 
• Soul mate: The person who is completely ideal for you, and who you would like to marry and spend the rest of your life with. 
• Stud: An attractive, charismatic and popular guy who has no problems finding a girl to sleep with. 
• Type of attractive women: These words refer to the looks (skin and hair color) of women, but doesn’t necessarily mean they’re attractive. However, people do think of attractive women when they hear any of the terms given below. 
• Blondy: A girl with blonde (yellowish) hair. 
• Brunette: A girl with black or brown hair. 
• Readhead: A girl with red hair. People also say ‘ginger’ but this word is sometimes derogative. 
• Wingman: A guy’s friend who helps him find sexual partners, and who would sacrifice himself by accepting to be with an unattractive girl so that his friend can seduce her more attractive friend. A woman’s wingman is another woman that helps her avoid men who are looking for sex. 
• Granade man: A guy who accepts to be with the less attractive girl of a group so that their friends can be with the unattractive girl’s friends. 
• Womanizer: A guy who manipulates women to have sex with him. As opposed to a ‘player’, womanizer is a negative term.

Idioms

• First, second, third base: In the process in which you’re dating someone, first base stands for kissing. Second base is heavy touching above the waist. Third base is touching below the waist or oral sex. 
• Hit a home-run: Finally, a home-run is sex. 
• Hold your horses: This expression can be used in many different contexts, but if you’re hitting on a girl, she might tell you to hold your horses, which means to take your time or not go so fast. This might happen in a early-stage relationship when one of the two people involved is going too fast. 
• Out of one’s league: We say a girl is out of your league when you think she’s too beautiful to possibly want to date you. 
• Take one for the team: To sacrifice oneself for the general good of the team. In the context of a group of guys looking for girls to have sex with, the guy who takes the less attractive girl can be said to be taking one for the team.

Other Fixed Expressions

• Blind date: A date organized for two people who have never met each other (generally by friends or family)
• Love at first sight: Love at first sight is when you fall in love with someone you just met or saw.
• One night stand: To have sex with someone with no intention of talking to that person again.
• Single and ready to mingle: This is what people might say when they’re single. ‘To mingle’ means ‘to socialize’ and when someone says this, he or she implies that he’s interested in getting to know people.

 General

• Catcall: (also sometimes referred to as wolf whistle) The whistle men make when they see a sexy-looking girl on the street. 
• Deal-breaker: Something that causes you to not want to continue dating someone. You might like a person, but a deal-breaker is something that you can’t accept in them, and therefore you decide to stop seeing them. For example, for many people it is a deal-breaker when they find out that the person smokes. 
• Flirtatious remark: A playful and sometimes innocent thing you say to a person you’re attracted to. 
• Pick up line: A line guys say to show they’re sexually or romantically interested in a girl. 
• Pushy: A guy is pushy when he’s too insistent about being with a girl, and doesn’t know how to take his time. 
• Sexting: Derivative from texting. Sexting is sending nude pictures or having a sexual conversation with someone via messages on the phone. 
• Smoking hot: A girl that is extremely hot (sexy).